Wednesday, October 1, 2014

What Can Happen With Over Parenting

By Marty Wind


You can probably thank all the experts over the years for the rise of over parenting. Preventing kids from experiencing some things in life that are not really harmful is what happens. This phenomena was likely the result of times past when children on the whole were being neglected or there was not enough intervention. You really have to try and figure out if you're over parenting, and here are some tips to help you do that.

For a while, it was fashionable to say that kids should be praised no matter what. It's very possible and not so hard to give negative feedback to kids without making them cry, etc. Experts today believe that praising kids too much does not do them any good, and it only teaches them that they don't have to try very hard at anything. The world typically does not reward poor performance with praise, and that's the fallacy of that approach.

If you're wondering how you may be over parenting, just ask yourself if you have pushed your child into learning something they really had no interest in. Maybe your kid is doing some sport that he or she is only doing because you pressured them into. So this is something that is definite over parenting, and your kid may be reluctant to say something because they know it's what you want. Avoid destroying your kid's sense of personal independence by forcing something unwanted on him or her.

Everyone that over parents their children is a "helicopter parent" by definition. These parents watch everything, hovering constantly, never allowing their kids to be on their own, even for a minute. This ends up making children nervous, as well as interfering with their ability to develop any kind of self sufficiency. Kids also need to learn how to function on their own, as well as with kids their own age. Kids simply won't grow up if they spend too much time with their parents every single day.

There's nothing wrong with monitoring a young child's use of the phone and computer, but it's also possible for parents to use these devices to constantly monitor their kids. If you are phoning your child's mobile number or sending texts to him or her every hour, you may be guilty of this. You maybe know that you can monitor your children with the GPS feature of their cell phone.

No matter what you do, if you're over parenting you are only protecting them from one kind of risk factor. So you'll need to find a way to breakout from being that kind of parent. Getting some sound professional advice can be a good option if you're not sure how to approach a workable solution. Getting to that most ideal point will take time and practice, and you may have to revamp how you approach these things.




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